How To Get Ridiculously Rich Without Having Sex

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Something is happening. You may already know about it. But if you don’t, you’ll be as surprised as I was. It’s essentially a ridiculously easy way to earn money. And it doesn’t involve sex, (in person, webcam or phone).

It all began at work. I stood in a shopping mall, with a girl I had just met, dressed as an Easter egg. We were giving away free samples of chocolate.

“You know you can earn money and get loads of designer stuff if you set up an Amazon wishlist?” The girl told me.

“What do you mean?” I asked curiously.

“You have to be on the right sites, set up an Amazon wishlist and that’s it. You might have to send a few selfies, but nothing more. The men who do it love it. They’re called paypigs. They get a kick out of giving sexy women gifts and money,” She explained.

What? This made no sense at all. Men gave you money for doing nothing? I didn’t press her because I didn’t know her. But quite frankly she wasn’t making any sense.

Later that night, I googled “paypigs” and discovered my new friend was completely right. It did exist. It was popular. Here’s what I discovered.

Introducing the paypig

A “paypig” is the term given to a man who likes to buy gifts and give cash to women. And this is not in exchange for sex, in fact, it’s usually for nothing or very little. The men enjoy the act of giving and expect nothing in return.

Writer Vanessa Brown explains, “The trend, which is especially popular in the UK, involves men, or ‘paypigs’ spending money on expensive gifts for women they have seen online.”

There is no expectation of sexual favours in return. A thank you note or a quick selfie from the woman is enough. The man receives his pleasure through the act of giving or spending his money on the woman.

A related term for this is “findom” which the Urban Dictionary define as, “a combination of 2 words: financial domination. Financial domination is a very real fetish involving a submissive being “forced” to give money to the dominant.”

Another term is rinsing, which is when, “a man showers a woman with expensive gifts and money for strictly no sexual favours in return”.

News.com report an example of three sisters, Lucy, Sophie and Stacie Brooks who made $160,000 from paypigs. One of the three sisters, Lucy, describes the men’s motives in more detail,

“These men are harmless. Lots have things missing in their lives. Maybe they’re lonely or lack ­confidence. They don’t have a glamorous girl to treat at home, so they get a kick out of buying for us. It’s sweet.”

All three sisters have never had sex with any of the men who spend money on them. They even have boyfriends who are totally fine with the process. Their Twitter and Amazon accounts make it clear exactly what items they want next, and the men then oblige.

They are sent designer shoes, clothes and gift cards. And will send a thank you note or selfie in return. The pleasure the man receives from sending the gift is enough for him.

The owner of Spoil Me Maybe, a website created three years ago designed to make it easier for men to find models and send gifts to them, shared his thoughts.

“The customers that send gifts aren’t rich like you’d expect. Most of them have very ordinary jobs, a little lonely and just want to send a gift to a lady. Some are addicted to sending gifts because they can’t get the models out of there heads”

So, are “rinsers” abusing men’s vulnerability or healthily embracing their sexual desires?

I can’t help but feel bad for the men who spend all their money on women for nothing in return. £160,000 is a lot of money and I could for sure do with it. But, if a man lacks confidence or feels lonely shouldn’t he be protected, not taken advantage of?

Yes, he has to take some responsibility as an adult. He has to be brave, and look within himself. He has to begin a path to self-improvement so he can build his confidence and understand women do want him for more than just gifts and cash.

But, the women also have a responsibility in their choice of actions and behaviour. They can ensure they don’t take advantage of vulnerability or loneliness. After all, men are fragile too, and should be looked after, not used.

In an age “where around 1 in 8 men have a common mental health problem” and “feel reluctant to seek support”, is fragility not at an all time high?

Perhaps, it is simply a healthy fetish which should be respected

As much as I feel uneasy about this rising phenomenon, maybe I should chill out. We are in an age of modern sex, and should encourage people’s desires and fetishes. These men are consenting adults, and actively seek out the women. If a man is getting pleasure from sending gifts and cash, what right does anyone have to stop this process?

It’s a controversial topic for me, as I believe the men could be classed as vulnerable. I can’t help but think a man who is addicted to giving gifts to women he has never met, should be encouraged to find healthy rewarding relationships elsewhere.

But, then if both consenting adults in this situation are happy to send or receive gifts, surely it is a pleasure they can enjoy freely?

We all get our kicks in different ways. And the internet offers an unusual opportunity to satisfy a broad range of fetishes. Although, “paypigs” aren’t a quick way for me to get rich, it doesn’t stop other ladies from earning a quick buck and hopefully giving a lot of pleasure during the process.

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