Published in Real Talk About Sex·Mar 25How To Tell If Your Girlfriend is Faking Her OrgasmThere are definite clues — Faking an orgasm is the easiest thing to pull off in life. Trust me. It’s the only fake thing I’ve come across that people seriously believe every time. In the past, when I faked orgasms I’d know for sure that my boyfriend wouldn’t know. He’d have no idea. Do I…Sex5 min read
Published in Sexography·Mar 17Have You Ever Wanted To Rim Your Boyfriend During Sex?Understanding rimming — Rimming is one of the few things I’ve said no to in the past. And let’s be clear, when I was younger I found it challenging to say no. I was happy to try most things. This was down to a curious mind but also, unfortunately, sometimes the pressure to…Sex4 min read
Published in Real Talk About Sex·Mar 9Is It Still Rape If You Said Yes?Navigating the blurry line of consent — It was my choice to flirt back. My choice to go to his hotel room. My choice to stay in the room. So, why did I feel so sick when I crept along the deserted corridor back to my room? What made me wash or dispose of everything I’d been…Mental Health7 min read
Published in Sexography·Mar 3Do You Have To Be a Passionate Person to Be Good at Blowjobs?Finding the joy — You know the phrase, go hard or go home? Well, it definitely applies here. What’s the point in doing something if you don’t put everything into it? A blowjob is like that. I’d rather do an excellent job and genuinely enjoy doing it or not do it all. It’s all…Sexuality4 min read
Published in Real Talk About Sex·Feb 26Why it’s Not Easy to Say No During SexThere’s a lot of pressure — It’s taken me thirty years to learn how to say no. I felt a pressure to go with the flow. And strangely, I felt that everything was all my fault. If I suddenly stopped enjoying sex or changed my mind, that was my responsibility and my fault. I had no…Sex4 min read
Published in In Fitness And In Health·Feb 25I’ve Lost a Tiny Amount of Weight After Working Out Religiously for 15 MonthsWhat am I doing wrong? — I’m confused. Like, really confused. How is it possible to workout everyday for 15 months and only lose 7 pounds? Every week, I stand on the scales at the gym, my heart pounding. I know this is the moment. It’s the day I’ve been waiting for. I tell myself the…Weight Loss6 min read
Published in Sexography·Feb 20Why You Should Never Be a Period Sex HaterIt’s wet, fun and totally normal — Period sex is unpredictable. Some months it’s the last thing you want to do. It’s messy, and vulnerable and intimate and wet. Really wet. Other months, all you want to be is close to your partner. The wetness is a huge turn on. …Sex4 min read
Published in Real Talk About Sex·Feb 19What a Dry Vagina During Sex MeansIs it always a bad sign? — “You’re super dry,” he said admiringly. Erm, reverse, rewind. Just joking. No one has ever said that. Ever. There’s no awards for dryness. It’s all about how dripping wet you are and how turned on you must be. There’s no admiration for a dry vagina. It’s not featured in porn…Sex4 min read
Published in Sexography·Feb 15Why Not Having Sex for Nine Months Led Me to My Best Sexual Experience EverSpoiler alert: I knew what I wanted — I will always remember the day I decided to break my nine month sex ban. I was in a hostel in Brighton in the UK. I was staying there for a week to do an acting course. I’d just come back from seven weeks of solo-travel and a three month…Sex4 min read
Published in Mind Cafe·Feb 6What To Do If You Can’t Stop Getting Bullied As An AdultHow to stop feeling like a victim. — I went to the gym a week ago and had a terrible experience. In a millisecond, I was transported back to secondary school. I was thirteen years old again. When I was thirteen I was bullied badly. I was scared to go to school. Every day I walked the twenty…Mental Health6 min read
